Parenthood is a journey filled with unexpected turns, especially when supporting a child through transitions that redefine societal norms. Andrew Patrie, an author from Eau Claire, gives a heartfelt glimpse into his experience in his memoir, “Clumsy Love: A Father’s Journey Parenting His Transgender Daughter.” An excerpt from this narrative was shared with WPR’s “Wisconsin Life.”
‘Follow Your Path’
“Quite a view today,” I remark to my daughter Simone, whose face is buried in a sweatshirt on the picnic table. Her reply is muffled in the fabric. We are enjoying a sunny day at the University of Wisconsin’s Terrace, surrounded by students and the peaceful sight of Lake Mendota. Nearby, ducks swim, and a rowing team glides by. The atmosphere is lively, with people enjoying the sunshine.
My wife, Adrienne, suggests with a nod that we should move along. As we walk, Simone lingers behind, appearing contemplative. “She’s nervous about tomorrow,” I mention, to which Adrienne responds, “Totally nervous. This is new for all of us.”
Two years ago, Simone informed us of her true identity as our daughter. It’s been a year since her name was legally altered to reflect this. Now, at eleven and on the brink of middle school, Simone is determined to avoid male puberty.
The next morning, we head to the Pediatric and Transgender Health Clinic. Arriving at the clinic, we check in and proceed to the waiting area, where Simone is captivated by the aquarium. Soon, her name is called, and we follow a nurse to the doctor’s office.
The doctor, with a welcoming demeanor, greets Simone, who nods in acknowledgment. When questioned about the visit’s purpose, Simone shyly leans towards Adrienne to convey her concerns. “We wanted to go over puberty blockers. Simone is going to be twelve in a few months, and she’s really worried the process has already begun,” Adrienne explains.
The doctor reassures Simone, “The good news is puberty doesn’t happen all at once.” To which Simone responds emphatically, “I don’t want any of it.”
“Wisconsin Life” is a co-production of Wisconsin Public Radio and PBS Wisconsin. The project celebrates what makes the state unique through the diverse stories of its people, places, history and culture.
